Saturday, February 28, 2009

If....

"If you and Deb won the lottery would you give us some of the money?"
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After I picked myself up off the floor and and after a few moments of trying to process the question I was no clearer than when I fell off the chair. Give some one money? Now I have long and colorful history of loaning money, and giving money and paying for things, and bailing folks out of tight spots and never getting it back, or not getting thanked, or it just plain not working so the whole IDEA of PURPOSELY giving someone money was very difficult to grasp.


Okay this is a joke, or maybe a carefully crafted ethics dilemma then I realized that she was serious. I also realized that I was taking a very long time to answer. Before I could answer she continued...


"Well I just wanted to let you know that my husband and I have decided that if we win the lottery we would give you and Deb some of it."


I was not sure how to react to such a honest, innocent and wholly open gesture. "Why?" (Can you believe all I could muster was "Why?")


We had a long discussion and yes we would give them money; after all they have us on their lottery list (among other very serious and well founded reasons).


I wonder if my children have me and their mother on their lists. Hmmmm.

Friday, February 27, 2009

George Washington

"Papa while you were gone I turned on the CD and it was George Washington!"

"George Washington?"

"Yes. I wanted Lenka but it was George Washington."

"Well I did not know George Washington had a CD."

"See George Washington."

"Sydney this is not George Washington this is Mozart."

"Oh."

"Did you like the music?"

"It's okay but I wanted Lenka. I have heard some of the music before at a concert when I went with Aunt Rachie. I listened for a while but changed it to Lenka."


Thursday, February 26, 2009

We're not going to Guam are we?

Is Jack's father really Jacob?
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What is the connection between Jack's father and grandfather to the island?
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Who are the two new folks and who do they work for?
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Where is Syiad?
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Who beat Ben up?
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Does Walt have to return to the island too?
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Did Ben kill Saiad's wife?
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Sunday, February 22, 2009

You stay classy, San Diego

While in San Diego I thought about going to see the places I used to go. But then I said No!

Things have changed; the town, the place, the memory will change if I go now. I am not the same, I am different, I am not the person I was when the memory was made; I have the memory, it changed me and if I go, I will change, the memory will change. It will not be the same, I will not be the same. Let it be. Let the memory in me remain as I remember and not change.


Oh history is a friend of mine
She comes over to my place
And we have a good time
But the memories
She sometimes brings with her
Get out of line
They’re out of line
Show me things I don’t want to see
Remind me of who I thought I was gonna be
Take me places I used to go
A long long time ago
A long long time ago

~A Long Long Long Time Ago
Proclaimers

Don't be dismayed at goodbyes.

Don't be dismayed at goodbyes.
A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.
And meeting again, after moments or lifetime, is certain for those who are friends.
~Richard Bach

I am back home in Savannah. The ride home on the plane was strange. I wanted to come home but did not want to leave my Mom and Dad. I had been away from my wife for two weeks. Oh I have been gone longer in the past but not recently. It was a long two weeks.
My Dad has good days and bad days but for me they were all sad days. He can look at most pictures and tell you the stories and in 10 minutes he repeats all the stories. He no longer has a concept of time; days and hours have no meaning. He will take a small nap after lunch and wake up and want breakfast. (He naps a lot.) But then some things are still the same; he wont eat egg salad but will eat a boiled egg. He has his hot chocolate morning and evening. Dad has taken up drinking soda. Other than homemade root beer I don't think I ever saw Dad drink a soda. He still likes his candy especially Tootsie Rolls. He has a drawer full of candy and soda.
He loves Mom and told me one night when I was driving him back to the home; "I'm worried about Mom. I don't know what I will do if something happens to her." On my last day he asked me if Deb was ready for me to come home. I said yes and he laughed, "She was ready for you to come home the first day you left." Very true and I wish Deb had been able to be there with me.
Someone was reading the inside of a candy wrapper and the quote was "Be Spontaneous." Dad quipped, "Spontaneity is over rated." Another quote of my Dad's that I heard many times over the years and he stills says is as someone is leaving, "Don't do anything I wont do. And if you do name it after me."
Linda and I went through Dad's files while I was there. Income tax files from 1965, monthly home budgets for the past 30 years, records of every house and property they ever owned, and genealogy notes. I retrieved Dad's genealogy notes and Linda keep the relevant financial records. So for my brothers and sisters and other family members; if Linda and I don't have it we don't know where it is.


I love you Mom and Dad.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Did you ever marry that girl?


My Father is in a home now; Mom was having a hard time taking care of him. After 3 strokes he has little use of his left side. Luckily he does not have any other serious health issues. I have not had to take care of people to this level before. Getting up, bathroom, dressing, it is all very difficult. They were living in Redding but moved back to San Diego. He did not like the first home; he said it was full of 'nutty buddies'. The new home only has 6 residents and he likes it much better.

It is very hard to see people you love approaching the end of their days. I am working on trying to reconstruct his life. I know he has experienced a lot and very little of it is actually known by anyone. He turned over the genealogy to me a few years back and he is not able to recall very much any more.

He steps back into time and often asks me, "Did I ever married that girl?" Well yes I did. I married her 34 years, we have 4 children and 9 grandchildren. I show him pictures of the children and the grandchildren but I have to do it every day. Its all very sad but he knows me and is not happy that I will be returning back to Georgia.

He likes to joke around and they are the same jokes but he was always did.
Somethings do not change.

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Vaaarooommm

I finished my last meeting and walked over to the rental counter to get my car. I was heading to San Diego to visit my Mom and Dad and Sister. I had just asked for an intermediate car and was expecting something like a Mazda. As I was standing there the rental guy drove up and said "Here you are." It was a white 2009 Mustang. Leather interior, stereo, satellite radio, colored lights, a rumble in the exhaust.

Yeah I can drive this to San Diego.
Thank you Hertz.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Snow Snow Snow

URGENT - WINTER WEATHER MESSAGE

NATIONAL WEATHER SERVICE LOS ANGELES/OXNARD CA
354 PM PST MON FEB 9 2009...
WINTER WEATHER ADVISORY FOR SNOW AND BLOWING SNOW REMAINS IN EFFECT FOR THE MOUNTAINS OF LOS ANGELES AND VENTURA COUNTIES...
ACCUMULATING SNOW IS POSSIBLE THROUGHEARLY TUESDAY MORNING...ESPECIALLY ALONG NORTH FACING SLOPES NEAR THE KERN COUNTY LINE. THIS MAY IMPACT TRAVEL ALONG INTERSTATE 5
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(No wonder the rain today was so cold.)

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Nobody walks in LA

Look ahead as we pass, try and focus on it
I won't be fooled by a cheap cinematic trick
It must have been just a cardboard cut out of a man
Top-forty cast off from a record stand
Walkin' in L.A.Walkin' in L.A.,
nobody walks in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.,
nobody walks in L.A.

I don't know could've been a lame jogger maybe
Or someone just about to do the freeway strangler baby
shopping cartpusher or maybe someone groovie
One thing's for sure, he isn't starring in the movies.
'Cause he's walkin' in L.A.

Walkin' in L.A., nobody walks in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.,
only a nobody walks in L.A.

Walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
You won't see a cop walkin' on the beat
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'

You only see 'em drivin' cars out on the street
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
You won't see a kid walkin' home from school
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'

Their mothers pick 'em up in a car pool
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin
'Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A., nobody walks in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A., nobody walks in L.A.

Could it be that the smog's playing tricks on my eyes
or is it a rollerskater in some kind of headphone disguise
Maybe somebody who just ran out of gas,
Making his way back to the pumps the best way he can.

Walkin' in L.A.Walkin' in L.A.,
nobody walks in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.Walkin' in L.A.,
nobody walks in L.A.Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.,
nobody walks in L.A.Walkin' in L.A.
Walkin' in L.A.,
only a nobody walks in L.A.

Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody's walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin' walkin'
Nobody walks in L.A

Missing Persons
1988

Meow

Seems it never rains in Southern California
Seems I've often heard that kind of talk before
It never rains in California
But girl, don't they warn ya
It pours man it pours.
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I had a few hours before my meeting started so I decided to walk down to a nearby mall (Westfield). I had thought about doing it yesterday but it was late afternoon, I was tired and jet lag was closing in. So I went this morning . Not half way there and the sky just opened up. Big cold drops of freezing rain poured down on me, soaking my coat and making me look like a poor stray cat.
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I went to the store to pick up water, and snacks, and such. The hotel is a desert with no oasis but room service. No ice bucket, no ice machine, no soda machines. Last night a hamburger, fries, and a soda cost $40. I thought $3 water at the airport was bad. Here its $4 a bottle (and its a smaller bottle too). They always put these meetings in hotels where you stranded from any reasonable food.
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California

"All the leaves are brown

and the sky is grey

I've been for a walk on a winter's day

I'd be safe and warm

if I was in L.A

California Dreamin'

on such a winter's day"


We here I am in California sitting in a hotel room in Century City. I got through the airport (you know the land of $3 water and $8 sandwich's) and arrived in Los Angles. LA is a bleak as I ever remember. Wall to wall houses and offices and long wide roads. I know there are some nice areas but I prefer not to be in the middle of town. (I guess if you include Beverly Hills as a nice area since it is right down the road.) My hotel is at the very bottom middle of this picture and so I see the twin towers right outside and the Century City fountain. It is not so very warm, mid 50s but it is California.


Friday, February 6, 2009

Is this interesting?

1. What year did you graduate? 1971

2. Did you date someone from high school? No – never did.

3. What kind of car did you drive? I drove an old Audi that nearly killed me in a accident when the drive shaft broke. Then I drove a 1965 gold Ford Falcon. I liked that car.

4. What was the most embarrassing moment of high school? There are too many to list since I had one every week. I guess the worse was the day I wore my Star Trek shirt to school (or was it the day I wore a Gandhi shirt?) or….

5. Were you a party animal? Ha Ha. I was only invited to one party from school and that was in my senior year; a beach party in La Jolla.

6. Were you considered a flirt? What is flirting?

7. Were you in band, orchestra or choir? Nope.

8. Were you a nerd? Yeah pretty much.

9. Were you on any varsity teams? Yes. I was on the high school rifle team for three years.

10. Did you get expended or expelled? I was never expelled. The school did call my Dad once to pick me up. That was the day I skipped classes to go to the anti war rally (Southeast Asia; the Vietnam war for you young folks) at San Diego State. It was a strange day. I met some SDS (Students for a Democratic Society) leaders and some Black Panthers. I got caught coming back into campus to get my car and the Principal called the police.

11. Can you still sing the fight song? We did not have a fight song that I remember but we did sing All Hail to Our Alma Matter a lot.

12. Who were your favorite teachers? Mr. Brown – He took me out of a general science class and put me in Physics. He told me that I was too smart to be in general science. The physics class had all the “beautiful people” in it. On the first test, which was two days after I got in the class, I did bad and only got a C. Turns out it was one of the highest grades in the class. Guess Mr. Brown was right but it also showed me how over inflated the reputations were of the “beautiful people’.

13. What classes do you wish you would have taken? I don’t have any I wish I had taken but I wish I had taken my German classes more seriously since I ended up spending 10 years in Germany.

14. What was your schools full name? Samuel F B Morse High School in San Diego California.

15. School mascot? Tiger.

16. Did you go to homecoming and who with? Yes with my neighbor, Karen. We went to a nice restaurant in Mission Valley, and then went to the prom. Too many beautiful people and it was loud and crazy. We left and went to the beach and strolled around. I don’t think Karen had much fun.

17. Where did you go on senior skip day? No such thing when I was in school. If there was I never got told about it.

18. Were you in any clubs? Yes a few. I was on the school newspaper for many years and was in ROTC so did a lot there; went to summer camp at Fort Irwin, went to rifle ranges all over southern California, and many parades.

19. What do you remember most about graduation? My grand mother flew from Ohio to be there. It was also right after my Dad retired from the Navy. It was held on the football field and was sunny. We were seated in alphabetical order. That was special because whenever we took tests and such we were always together alphabetically and two of them had been with me for 6 years.

20. What advice would you give yourself? Read the book and do the homework. Don’t take yourself so serious.

21. Are you planning on going to any of your reunions? I am on the reunions notification list but I will most likely never attend. See that would become one of those embarrassing moments because I would walk in and no one would remember me.

22. If you could go back and do it again would you? Never; though I might think about dating someone from my own school next time.

Oh Wow Man

Question:
How many teaspoons in a tablespoon?

Answer:
1 tablespoon = 3 teaspoons

So when the bottle says to take one teaspoon twice a day as needed and you actually take one tablespoon twice a day you had 6 teaspoons of medicine and the sugar helped the medicine go down.